How To Take Back Control

Most everyone has goals in life, right? Whether it’s something personal— buying your first home; or professional— becoming the manager of your team, we all have ambitions and dreams. But when happens to those who are trying to surpass their own limits in terms of hours and energy leading to exhaustion and burn-out. This leading to fall of the very thing they are trying to accomplish – results. There is no secret to success. It’s hard word and effort. It is mastering the basics and continually improving what you do and how you do it. It’s Unlearning what you do on a regular basis to for quality control and improvement. If you want to continue to hit goals as a leader at any level, there are all important elements to help hit goals. BUT, when you’re mental and or physical health prevents you from achieving those goals (burnout), things may get complicated. So, you’re an overachiever; someone who’s considered too ambitious. Big deal, right? Everyone has goals that they’re passionate about. At least that’s what Mark Cuban says on ABC’s Shark Tank™ right. Yes. However, what happens when those goals start affecting your personal and professional life? When is it time for a “check-up from the neck-up”? Are you too ambitious? We’re not talking about Benjamin Franklin-level ambitious (or maybe we are). Have you been told you’re too intense, and you need to lighten up, here are a few ways to best use that passion and intensity without jeopardizing your own health and relationships that life is really all about.

Make a List of Things That Really Matter

Nobody’s telling you to list down everything you do throughout the day (or maybe that’s necessary) but go through your schedule. You need to focus on what’s really important and see what you can cut out. Are there things you an delegate? Is a virtual or personal assistant an option that could take some of the tasks that do not have to be done by you?

Priorities. Priorities. Priorities.

If anyone ever seen me present as a keynote speaker, it’s likely they remember may purpose and passion. It’s relationships, and understanding that relationships are not something we conquer, but instead, a series of simple moments that matter. Yes, project meetings with your business partner are critically important, but a family dinner may not come around for a while. What an incredible struggle this is and determining how to balance this every day in order to impress the boss or client and not neglect those we care more about. Similarly, as it doesn’t change if you don’t have a family. Take the opportunity to get to know the people you work with. While work is important, it’s also important to build networks and relationships. Remember that the organization you work for may not always be there, but the connections you build through it, will be.

Follow the B.H.A.G. Rule

What in the world is B.H.A.G., you ask? It stands for Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal. It means that you list down all your goals and focus on an area that’s really important. I was looking for the first person to use this phrase – it wasn’t me – but a tip-of-the-hat to whoever did. (I wasn’t able to determine its first use). Let’s say in simple terms for example, you’re working on multiple projects but there’s one project that has a deadline coming up within a couple of days. Obviously you’d focus on the project that is timely and important and less on that one project that is not high-priority.Yet, we feel we can multi-task so efficiently in today’s world. However, author Neen James proves in her book;Attention Pays -Wiley 2018, that our ability to put forth our best efforts while multi-tasking-is in jeopardy. Yet, we continue to do so more and more all the time.

Focus on Failures As Well, Not Just Successes

That doesn’t mean creating a poster full of all the things you’ve failed at, and hanging it on the wall. It does, however, mean that you should focus on learning from your failures. There are things you can sometimes learn from your successes. But, there are ALWAYS things you can learn from your mistakes. Follow the above-mentioned tips to improve your life. It goes without saying that you can’t change your habits overnight. If you need help, contact motivational keynote speaker, Jon Petz. Jon has years of experience in the public speaking industry. Prominent corporate companies, such as Oracle and J. P. Morgan Chase trust Jon Petz as a keynote speaker to help them unlearn in order to evolve into the fast-paced future. Check out his engaging motivational speeches for a dose of inspiration!